Who would benefit from “The 1 Thing” services?

The 1 Thing provides services for premarital couples, long-time married couples, and all couples in between. “The 1 Thing enhances all relationships, regardless of the age or stage of your marriage.

The 1 Thing is not just for couples.  We strives to cultivate emotional health, self-awareness, self-development and maximize the potential of every individual through the coaching experience.  We also offer quarterly workshop.

We’re doing fine, why would we want to rock the boat?

Whatever state your marriage is in, wouldn’t you agree it can be better?  If your relationship is struggling, it can be better.  If your relationship is fantastic, it can still be improved upon.  We want God’s promise of exceedingly, abundantly above all we could ask or think marriages and our individual lives.

Is “The 1 Thing” series presented in a lecture style?

Not at all. All of our programs and events are very hands-on.  Each couple is an active participant, with many opportunities for couples to turn knee-to-knee and share with each other.  Couples use their own relationship experience for learning.  The focus of every event is each couple's own marriage.

Why include other couples?

Couples can help couples. Within a small group, couples can find an environment of safety, trust, and community.  Our small group process is used as a powerful tool to help couples gain a sense of "we are not in this boat alone."  You will gain encouragement and motivation from other couples; learn alternatives for handling issues common to most couples; and gain hope and inspiration from hearing other couples talk about things that are meaningful in their marriage. Within the group, there is no confrontation, analyzing, or prescribing; each person speaks for their self, sharing their own experience and gives others support and encouragement.

Who leads the programs and workshops?

Coaches and Leader Couples having completed the “The 1 Thing” leader training lead our programs and workshops. They are honored to share from their own marriage experience. Their role is to establish the climate of safety, openness, support, and sharing within the group. Leader Couples make themselves vulnerable and demonstrate openness within the group.  Leader Couples come as full participants in the Intentional Longevity experience, rather than as experts with all the answers.

I'm afraid all of our weaknesses will be exposed and we'll feel worse about our relationship.

Intentional Longevity is focused on positive growth.  It is based on the assumption that each couple has strengths on which to build.  Identifying these strengths and building on them is an essential element of Intentional Longevity.  Growth plans and agreements are designed to help couples make step-by-step progress toward the goals they set for their marriage.

What's the difference between the Intentional Longevity curriculum and Coaching?

Intentional Longevity, generally, is most effective for couples who are not in crisis, couples who have basically healthy relationships but want to continue to deal with some reoccurring issues. It is for couples that want to learn, grow, and develop relationship skills.

Coaching, generally, is for couples who are in crisis or with deeper, more significant issues that they are unable to handle themselves. These couples need a qualified Coach to help them deal with these issues.  Intentional Longevity is helpful for these couples in connection with Coaching, but not as a stand-alone replacement for Coaching.

Coaching is for the everyone and is always done individually. You need not be in a relationship to benefit from the power of coaching.